BEATEN BLACK & BLUE AS A CHILD / TEENAGER
This particular lie is extremely painful, for us, there is not one shred of evidence to back this up, its devastating that Gemma can suggest this actually happend.
No person in their right mind would have allowed me to have had so much close and unsupervised access to our grandson had I been a child beater. Gemma Posts about "being beaten black and blue". No Mother would allow this and yet of course we had so much quality time with Jesse, too many times to mention, great times and very often we were helping Gemma because she wanted to go to various places, for example Glastonbury etc
We loved our time with our grandson and we miss him so much
Gemma has never ever been beaten, it never happened.
GEMMAS MUM WAS NOT HAVING AN AFFAIR
Our marriage was not in difficulty in the usual sense, there was no affair that i know of, there were numerous short lived encounters. These encounters were brief and were with anyone who showed interest. Gemmas mum had a very low opinion of herself. quick encounters gave her confidence. Gemmas mum was also suffering from Bulimia, we were trying to find help for her but in those days it wasn't easy. I tried to help the best i could.
Gemmas mum was always sorry once she had done these things, often telling me she would kill herself if I left her. I explained all this in court. she would tell me this, she would tell some people that she wanted to leave and other people that she wouldn't know what to do if i had left her.
It was noted that the person she stayed out all night with (and gave her the love bites that triggered all this), she had met this guy only 3 days before.
HOW IT HAPPENED
Carol had always been very much against cheating, she was very convincing at portraying this as something that she would never do. I believed her.
Around June 1992, Carol went out with our next door neighbour. Our neighbour got back home around 1am, Carol got home at 7am.
Of course this caused a big row. Carol denied she had done something wrong and made up some crazy story about why she was so late coming home. Stupidly, I believed her. Carol was very convincing.
(I actually found out much later that Carol had met 2 guys in a night club and had gone off with them both, this is why she was late coming home)
When this happened, I said we were finished. Carol said she would not go out anymore and that we will be ok and get things sorted. I agreed to this.
Anyone who knew Carol would know that you could not force her to do anything. I could not force her to not go out, it was her choice and because of this I believed that she wanted to make it all work.
Gemmas Mums Adopted
Parents
On the one hand Gemma states that her mums adpoted parents were a "confusing & unstable family" and that they "failed" her mum
Gemma later states how good they are
I always got on with them but they do lead a odd lifestyle, many people told me how they believe this had a negative effect on Gemmas mothers mental health
Gemma mentions a smear comapign, there was no "smear campaign" i got on well with them and had no issues with them. It was my choice to allow Gemma to stay with them for 2 years
At Gemmas School "in Hand Cuffs"
Gemma Posted that she remembers me going to her school handcuffed, to check the school out.
Can you imagine this ever being allowed, of course its not allowed and even if it was, I would not have gone, the children would have been scared to see this. Its just not allowed and rightly so.
It never happened